Funny how life makes you go through stages and makes you wonder what on earth just happened…Few days ago, my patience was nowhere to be found, vanished, disappeared, gone. It happened when i needed it the most. After spending 8 hours with my kids (whom i adore), I had enough of their constant fighting and bickering. One wrong move from the eldest provoked an avalanche of anger from my part. Honestly, who was that women shouting and exhausted? Unfortunately it was me. I then remember “anger management”, the brilliant movie with Jack Nicholson & Adam Sandler, and I thought, maybe that is what i need!!! Until I got very valuable advices from my sweet friends:
“Being a good parents doesn’t mean you need to be a perfect one”
“Go do some sport (preferably martial art!) that would channel your “tension””
“Lower your expectations‘
“Eat chocolate” (that is my own advice, it helps, but not in the long run…your butt will remember!)
“Accept that things are not always the way we want them to be “
Basically impatience stems from an unfulfilled need to control the situation; whether it is related to being stuck in traffic, kids fighting, hunger, tiredness, stress. Impatience can be dealt with if we acknowledge The WHY behind the state. Once we understand the why, we can start treating it, instead of reacting to it and thus feel hopeless and without control.