I often ask myself, why it is so difficult to make some changes in life…How many times haven’t i tried to change something in my behavior, and then give up too soon or simply forget to focus leading to yet another trial?
I am thinking diet, i am thinking writing a book, i am thinking educating my dog… i am thinking of the zillion projects that we always pin down on our “bucket list” but somehow never get to achieve them or make them come true..
Change can be frightening. What if the change would bring something worse to our life instead of making it better? What if the change we want to make needs a lot of persistence, of consistency, of focus, of control and it all becomes too overwhelming?
For change to happen, we need to be fed up with our status quo, at least it works that way for me!
Then we need to have a vision of where you want to be, as what are the goals, how does it feel to be there, how does it look like.
To get there, focus is probably the main ingredient, as in remembering everyday why we are on this particular journey, remembering the vision, fighting all kind of challenges and hurdles that will undeniably cross your path to make you fail at what you are aiming to do.
And last it is important to feel that only we are responsible for the change to happen. We are the ones making it happen and living the change. Not anyone else…
Does it mean that we need to grow up in order to want to change and make the change happen? 🙂
Few nights ago, a friend of mine created a gathering at her place where a Lebanese coach in sales and strategy (Samir Zehil) offered us a lecture on New patterns of thinking and Goal setting. As much as all of what he said sounded familiar (he actually mentioned the fact that coaches reveal to people what they already know), it was kind of challenging and interesting to listen to.
Being a person who always have lists, ideas, goals, projects in the hat; I needed to understand the pattern for a successful goal setting, achievement of projects. And here are some simple principles (that made sense to me) that should be shared with you, as I am sure that I am not the only one struggling with fifty thousand things to achieve!
87% of success comes from character (the rest from techniques); i.e. diplomas and degrees are very nice but not the only ingredients in a successful venture
A good character knows how to deal with people that cannot fight back & who are not necessarily doing you any good in return
Seeing the good in a situation and person, being able to forgive and to get along with all sorts of people show a Healthy Personality
Expecting the best from oneself and from others make us Give the best of ourselves (this is actually proven!)
Successful projects need problem solving thinking & an outlook towards the future (not dwelling about the past, failure and what has been)
To move forward it is important to look a bit back and see what we have learned
For successful goal setting, 4 principles must be in focus:
You need an intense burning desire (if not then forget it, your goal will never be met)
The goal must be Challenging & realistic (you cannot lose 5 kilos in 1 week!!! But you could lose 5 kilos in 2 months!)
Write down your goals, and have them in front of you always! We tend to easily forget and move on
Measure your achievement (step by step)
This board summarizes it very well!!! Happy Goal setting….